Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW

Psychotherapist, coach + consultant 

 
Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.
— CG Jung
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welcome + Being

Psychotherapist, International Life Coach Kim Seelbrede, LCSW

My work as a licensed psychotherapist and coach is characterized by compassion, intuition and a deep respect for the mind-body connection. I value individual uniqueness, acceptance and strive to foster an open and authentic therapeutic relationship. Together, we will identify and breakthrough the limiting beliefs, blocks and self-defeating behaviors that keep you "stuck" while exploring family of origin and ancestral wounds, trauma, conflicts, grief, unhelpful defenses and relational patterns. My approach includes interpersonal and psychodynamic theory, elements of cognitive therapy, interpersonal neurobiology, EMDR and somatic psychotherapy, shadow work, stress reduction and mindfulness. These techniques are effective in helping clients heal obstacles to health and well-being, address unresolved trauma, PTSD and addictions, and enjoy more satisfying personal and professional relationships. In my work with couples, we identify barriers to intimacy, closeness and sexuality and resolve problematic patterns and communication challenges. I provide sex therapy and the hope of healing from infidelity. Please take some time to look through my website to learn more about emotional health and well-being. Sessions worldwide via SKYPE or in my NYC office.

About Kimberly 

Kimberly Seelbrede, LCSW is a New York City licensed Psychotherapist, Coach and Consultant working with Manhattan-based and international clients, and has extensive post-graduate training and experience working with individuals and couples. As a mind-body psychotherapist, Kimberly is a yoga therapist and maintains a spiritual practice of meditation and living mindfully. With a focus on healthy lifestyle and stress management, she works to create a unique and integrative therapy practice and solution-focused life coaching for her clients. She skillfully blends psychodynamic psychotherapy with elements of cognitive-Behavioral therapy (CBT, DBT, mindfulness, EMDR therapy, mind-body techniques, self-care practices and wellness coaching. Kimberly works with many prominent, high-profile and creative individuals and has expertise with celebrity mental health concerns.

Kimberly offers mindfulness, focusing techniques, EMDR therapy and other mind-body, somatic therapies. She has received advanced EMDRIA-certified, level II EMDR training and post-graduate training with the William Alanson White Institute For Psychoanalysis for eating disorders, addictions and compulsions, couples training with the Gottman Institute and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), mindfulness and integrative yoga therapy with the Urban Zen Foundation. Learn More.

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Services Offered

 

Depth Psychology

Psychodynamic Psychotherapy

Couples, Relationships + Family

CBT, DBT, Crisis Counseling

Psycho-Spiritual Counseling

Online Counseling

Couples Sex Therapy

Coaching

Personal Life Coaching

Executive + Peak Performance

Clinical Consultation, professional Consultation

Referrals

Clinical Supervision

Lifestyle, Recovery + Stress Management

Integrative EMDR Therapy

EMDR Therapy + Trauma

Brainspotting + Performance

Meditation + Mindfulness

Guided Imagery

Integrative Therapy Workshops

Stress Reduction Workshops

Many of her clients struggle with the following concerns:

  • Stress, anxiety, panic disorder, OCD, insomnia + emotion regulation
  • Depression, postpartum, SAD, sadness + mood issues
  • Relationship, communication + sexual concerns
  • Performance blocks, negative self-image, self-sabotage + feeling "stuck"
  • Addictions, compulsions + eating disorders
  • Trauma, PTSD, dissociation, boundaries, attachment issues + narcissistic abuse
  • Guilt, shame, abandonment, loss + grief
  • Crisis counseling, transitions, life-balance
  • Hormone imbalance, chronic pain, medical diagnosis + autoimmune disorders
  • Spiritual concerns + energetic blocks 
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Psychotherapy 

Through the lens of relational, attachment-based and psychodynamic-informed approaches to therapy and counseling with her clients, individuals and couples are able to understand themselves and their relationships, as well as any unconscious internal conflicts that interfere with personal development and goal-attainment. Without insight, conflicts and the unconscious drives dynamics and behaviors lead to anxiety and mood problems, acting out, addictions, self-destructive patterns and unhappiness. When clients are able to explore, understand and finally work-through underlying conflicts, symptoms are greatly reduced and individuals and couples are less likely to repeat patterns as they experience freedom and enhanced self-esteem. Additionally, avoidance and fear of anger or other strong emotions, self-sabotage or self-defeating patterns, fear of intimacy and closeness, and boundary issues can be addressed. Emotional healing and change occurs in the context of healthier relationships. Research reveals that through the relational process of being in a healthy relationship with another, clients develop the freedom to relate to others, to practice new behaviors, to feel safe enough to be "seen" by others and experience freedom from anxiety and fear. In the context of a safe and supportive counseling relationship, attachment theory and neuroscience reveals that new neural pathways can be established, traumatic experiences can be healed, and the parts of us that become "stuck" in the past can be understood and worked through. 

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Relationships + Sex therapy 

Couples therapy or relationship counseling is designed to help clients work through relationship and communication problems and create or reconnect to love, mutual respect and intimacy. I work with high-functioning couples and couples in crisis to help them heal, listen for and understand the emotional needs of the other. Effective couples therapy should provide helpful feedback, support and guidance so that communication can feel safe and constructive. Additionally, couples can learn tools to navigate problems, work through conflicts and increase the attachment bond, which results in deepened intimacy and trust. Kim Seelbrede  works with heterosexual and gay couples and has received training with The Gottman Institute and integrates principles of EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy into sessions with clients. EFT or Emotionally focused therapy is an intervention based on scientific studies about adult bonding and love. EFT also focuses on helping couples address and resolve distress in intimate relationships. Emotionally Focused Therapy can also be used to support family members during family therapy focusing on attachment and emotional connection. Couples seeking counseling to reconnect to love and improve their relationships may find EFT beneficial as it fosters a deeper understanding of their own, and the emotional responses of significant others in their lives.

Therapists who provide emotionally focused therapy typically work with couples and families to help facilitate the creation of secure, lasting bonds between intimate partners and family members and reinforce any preexisting positive bonds, with the goal of helping those in treatment increase security, closeness, and connection in intimate relationships. Kimberly Seelbrede provides sex therapy for couples struggling with sexual concerns, lack of desire and inability to communicate about sexual needs. Her goal is to help clients who are craving more exploration, surprise, mystery, novelty, excitement, desire and passion in their erotic lives. Read more. 

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EMDR + Somatic-Based THERAPY 

EMDR treatment is based on the neuroscience of the brain and uses the technique of alternating bilateral stimulation to process through memory networks and release the emotional charge associated with distressing thoughts, memories and blocks. Compared to traditional forms of cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT, EMDR has proven to be extremely effective in treating even the most problematic issues in fewer sessions. Because EMDR therapy addresses the root cause and heals at the level of the nervous system, clients have a better chance of achieving healing without needing to return to therapy. EMDR therapy identifies and addresses experiences that have overwhelmed the brain’s natural coping capacity and resilience, which has led to traumatic symptoms and harmful coping mechanisms helping clients reprocess traumatic information leading to a peaceful resolution. Negative, painful thoughts and beliefs are replaced with more adaptive and realistic, here and now, self-concepts. EMDR therapy is particularly supportive for clients who need to strengthen inner resources and develop self-soothing techniques. Kim Seelbrede is a level I & II EMDRIA-trained EMDR and Brainspotting clinician with a private psychotherapy and consultation practice in Manhattan. 

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Personal + Executive Performance COACHING 

Clients seeking coaches are not looking to heal issues rooted in the past, nor are they looking for an expert to help them understand and explore complex family dynamics, neurotic patterns, conflicts or trauma. While the past may interfere with goals and moving forward, it is only addressed in an effort to understand what may be blocking a client from moving forward. The focus is always on clearing the path and any blocks, as needed, to help clients become more available for a new reality and way of life which includes creating goals, strategizing, taking action and gaining accountability. Generally speaking, coaching clients are men and women who are busy, self-directed, goal and performance-oriented and often, high-achievers, who thrive using personal accountability, honesty, feedback, perspective shifting, action steps and focused, challenging questions. Partnering with a life coach can be supportive, encouraging and empowering. Coaching can help clients navigate change and restore balance and enhance life-satisfaction. Whether you're interested in taking control of your health concerns, peak performance, blocks, losing weight, breaking a habit, repairing a relationship or transitioning to a new chapter in life, coaching can provide the needed inspiration, knowledge, accountability and results that you desire. When clients are interested, I combine EMDR with coaching for optimal results

    Dynamic and focused coaching for clients who feel “stuck” or need support for relationship issues, career concerns, health, fitness, life-balance, stress management, enhanced success, increased confidence and greater life-satisfaction. My clients enjoy using EMDR Treatment to enhance performance and remove personal blocks. -KS

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    HOW CAN THERAPY HELP YOU?

    • Life is improved by identifying important thoughts, feelings and motivations
    • Change and growth occurs when clients develop a deep understanding of self and others
    • Break through blocks in intimacy, detach from unhealthy relationships, develop healthy personal boundaries
    • Recognize and break through obstacles, negative patterns and self-defeating behaviors
    • Gain support through a personal crisis, transition or challenging situation
    • Identify problematic thoughts and triggers that lead to anger, confusion and relationship dysfunction to allow for more satisfying relationships
    • Gain the necessary insight and self-awareness for change to occur
    • Become more confident, effective and assertive in personal and professional relationships
    • Uncover hidden blocking beliefs that may be sabotaging success and happiness with the help of EMDR therapy
    • Learn more adaptive coping skills, self-care rituals and habits
    • Address body image, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, substance reliance and obsessions
    • Process and heal painful feelings of loneliness, disappointment, sadness, loss, grief, guilt, shame, anger, envy and fear
    • Develop enhanced attention and awareness through mindfulness and radical acceptance
    • Resolve trauma, abuse and PTSD symptoms as well as heal early attachment wounds
    • Develop self-care rituals and work towards enhanced physical health and life-balance

    Interested in life coaching?

    I Enjoy Working With Creatives, Entrepreneurs And Professionals Who Are In Need Of Dynamic Coaching And Support In These Areas:

    • Change + Challenges -- breakups, separation, divorce and other major life-transitions
    • Passion + Purpose -- discovering what you really love to do
    • Healing + Personal Empowerment -- learning to communicate your needs in healthy ways
    • Self-Love + Self-Care -- discovering your strengths, talents and possibilities
    • Happiness + Inner Peace -- aligning or re-aligning yourself with your true nature and developing intuition
    • Goals + Dreams -- identifying goals and taking action
    • Weight Loss -- undoing bad habits while creating new, healthier possibilities
    • Health -- support and coaching for chronic health concerns including cancer, chronic pain and autoimmune disorders
    • Creating Prosperity + Abundance -- removing blocks and opening to potential and possibilities
    • Love + Relationships -- breaking old patterns and habits and attracting the right relationships 

    Clinical EXPERTISE

    • Celebrity mental health expertise
    • Trauma--Sexual, physical and verbal abuse, repeating family dynamics, violence, witnessing or involvement in crime, catastrophic events, rape, accidents
    • Sexual Disorders--Difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (desire, arousal, orgasm, resolution) that prevents or limits the enjoyment of healthy sexual activity, either alone or in the context of relationships
    • Creativity and Success--Blocks in writing, creating and producing, repetitive patterns of self-sabotage and self-defeating patterns, perfectionism, fear of failure, fear of success, neurotic undoing
    • Communication Difficulties and Relationship Problems--Difficulties identifying and expressing emotions and feelings, feeling victimized, attacked and blamed, defensiveness, problems listening or understanding the other, feeling easily angered and triggered, frustrations due to not feeling heard or seen, violent or destructive communication patterns, problems with intimacy or maintaining relationships, adult children of alcoholics, family of origin problems
    • Postpartum, Parenting Issues, Family Problems and Crisis Counseling--Feeling easily frustrated, alone or isolated, overwhelmed and confused, difficulties communicating feelings and needs, exhaustion, helping a loved-one get sober, mental health issues affecting family members
    • Anxiety--Panic attacks, generalized anxiety, fear, excessive worry, phobias, obsessive-compulsive behaviors
    • Depression--Major Depression, Dysthymia, Bipolar Disorder, sadness, irritability, social withdrawal, hopelessness, sleep disturbances, guilt, lack of desire, poor concentration
    • Eating Disorders--Compulsion to eat or not eat as well as other disturbances in body image and thoughts, beliefs and behaviors affecting physical and mental health.
    • Addictions--Destructive coping mechanisms and compulsions to engage in specific activities despite negative consequences to one's health, mental state, career, family and social life as well as co-occurring or underlying mental health problems such as ADD, anxiety, trauma and depression that may have led to the reliance on substances or problem behaviors
    • Recovery--Support for individuals in all stages of recovery from addictions, alcohol, eating disorders, anxiety, depression and trauma (pre-rehab, post-rehab or residential step-down support), wellness planning, practicing new habits, maintenance and self-care
    • Life Changes--Transitions in the life cycle that cause emotional, psychological and physical challenges (new relationships, marriage, birth of a child, aging, perimenopause, menopause, ending relationships, separation, divorce, career or job struggles, death of loved one, becoming sober or challenges to maintaing sobriety)
    • Sexual Disorders--Difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (desire, arousal, orgasm, resolution) that prevents or limits the enjoyment of healthy sexual activity, either alone or in the context of relationships
    • Creativity and Success--Blocks in writing, creating and producing, repetitive patterns of self-sabotage and self-defeating patterns, perfectionism, fear of failure, fear of success, neurotic undoing
    • Communication Difficulties and Relationship Problems--Difficulties identifying and expressing emotions and feelings, feeling victimized, attacked and blamed, defensiveness, problems listening or understanding the other, feeling easily angered and triggered, frustrations due to not feeling heard or seen, violent or destructive communication patterns, problems with intimacy or maintaining relationships, adult children of alcoholics, family of origin problems 
    • Postpartum, Parenting Issues, Family Problems and Crisis Counseling--Feeling easily frustrated, alone or isolated, overwhelmed and confused, difficulties communicating feelings and needs, exhaustion, helping a loved-one get sober, mental health issues affecting family members

    More about Couples + Relationship Counseling

    What Gottman's Research Tells Us About Relationships

    • Emotional distance can be as destructive to a relationship as conflict

    • The way a couple fights, repairs and resolves problems is more important than what they fight about 
    • Attachment insecurity leads to conflict and or distance
    • In distressed relationships, some partners shut down and withdraw as a way to manage intense emotions
    • Couples must nurture fondness and respect for the other in order to thrive together
    • Couples need shared meaning in their lives to remain connected

    Couples therapy or relationship counseling supports couples experiencing external stressors such as illness, job loss and family conflicts as well as natural shifts in couple dynamics and roles. Some individuals benefit from individual sessions without their partner to help them work on personal challenges and relational needs before working together with a couples therapist. Kim Seelbrede counsels individuals and couples in various types and stages of relationships including: pre-marital counseling, marriage counseling, committed relationships, open relationships, as well as those considering separation, divorce, newly-single and dating again. Sessions are available weekly, bi-monthly or as weekend intensives in her Manhattan-based office or online via FaceTime or Skype. Learn more about relationship and couples counseling here.

    About Emotionally Focused Therapy or EFT for Couples

    EFT or Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples and relationship counseling is an an intervention based on scientific study of adult love and bonding processes in couples. It is designed to address distress in the intimate relationships of adults with a focus on improving emotional attachment. Couples seeking marriage or relationship therapy do so to improve their relationships and may find this method a beneficial approach, as it can help people better understand both their own emotional responses in the context of interpersonal interactions and those of significant people in their lives. Psychotherapists who provide emotionally focused couples therapy typically work with couples and families to help facilitate the creation of secure and lasting bonds between intimate partners and strengthen and reinforce existing bonds. Couples will experience an increase in security, closeness, and connection in intimate relationships. 

    SELF-CARE + Well-being 

    Helpful information about Self-care practices

    As a mind-body psychotherapist specializing in trauma, emotion regulation and stress management using EMDR therapy, Kim Seelbrede, LCSW works with individuals and couples from an experiential, intuitive and present-focused, mindful perspective. She regularly teaches her clients the basics of meditation and gives them the tools to create a mindfulness meditation practice. She works with beginning practitioners as well as individuals who are looking for support with emotional and health challenges. Many clients are interested in creative approaches such as guided imagery and body scans which can also support wellness goals. As a registered yoga therapist (200 + 500 hrs) and a Reiki practitioner, she regularly recommends a variety of helpful practices for her clients including referrals for energy or body work such as: acupuncture, craniosacral therapy (CST) and Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy, as examples. Integrative therapy may include some combination of the following: meditation support, mindfulness, breathing techniques, stress response training, guided imagery, somatic psychotherapy, Focusing, Brainspotting and EMDR therapy to help clients strengthen inner resources and develop self-soothing techniques with the goal of a healthier life-balance.

    Kim Seelbrede trained with Donna Karan's groundbreaking Urban Zen Foundation and the Urban Zen Integrative Therapy Program (UZIT) and mentored students in the UZIT 2010 program. As a registered yoga therapist she received training in five key modalities: yoga therapy, Reiki, essential oils, nutrition and contemplative care, to address the needs of patients in the healthcare system, medical professionals and caregivers. She is comfortable working with patients receiving conventional and alternative treatments for a variety of conditions. Some examples of chronic health conditions that benefit from self-care support and advocacy are the following: Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome or CFS, arthritis, MS, Lupus, asthma, obesity, hypertension, diabetes, Lyme disease, autoimmune thyroid disorders (Hashimoto's & Graves), depression, IBS, IBD, hormonal imbalance and diseases of aging as a few examples.

    Self-care is not being selfish or indulgent, it is the ability to care for one's own emotional needs and interests and set boundaries. Individuals with low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, dependency issues and codependent individuals fail to care for themselves, often until it's too late and they become sick. Conventional medicine rarely addresses the root causes of many of these chronic conditions, and treats only the symptoms. A whole-body approach gives clients the choice to make radical lifestyle changes that may actually cure these common diseases, or at least greatly reduce symptoms and suffering. Learn more about Urban Zen Integrative Therapy here.

     

    Integrative Psychotherapy + Coaching 

    Helpful information for individuals + couples

    • Gain support through a personal crisis, transition, loss, trauma or challenging situation
    • Using EMDR, increase capacity to experience calm and comfort in the body, release trauma, uncover hidden blocking beliefs that may be sabotaging success and happiness or contributing to anxiety and depression, reduce the impact of negative experiences
    • Address dissociation, body image, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, substance use or abuse and obsessions using cutting-edge therapies such as EMDR, Focusing, Somatic Experiencing techniques & Brainspotting 
    • Break through blocks in intimacy; recognize unhealthy relationships; break patterns of repetition in significant relationships
    • Learn to identify triggers that lead to anger, confusion and relationship dysfunction
    • Learn more adaptive coping skills and develop nurturing self-care rituals 
    • Process and heal painful feelings of loneliness, disappointment, sadness, loss, grief, guilt, shame, anger, envy and fear
    • Develop enhanced attention and awareness through relaxation techniques, mindfulness and radical acceptance
    • Resolve trauma and abuse symptoms, develop healthier boundaries and heal early attachment wounds
    • Unearth parts of yourself that are dissociated and explore areas of spirituality and your true nature
    • Heal physical symptoms of disease and pain by connecting to habitual thoughts, unexpressed emotions and trauma 

    RECOVERY SUPPORT + AFTERCARE

    Consultation For Family Members

    Kim Seelbrede works with individuals just released from addiction or eating disorder inpatient rehab and provides support in the form of individual psychotherapy, EMDR trauma treatment, and when helpful, family therapy.Getting a loved-one into treatment and finding the right program requires help, support and resources. It's difficult to do this alone. Additionally, family members experience strong emotions related to the experience of having a family member who is addicted and at-risk. 

    Recovery support can help clients and family members with the following concerns:

    • Maintaining motivation and staying focused on personal goals 
    • Support for creating healthy and safe boundaries for self and others, identifying needs, communicating effectively, learning to ask for help, and self-empowerment
    • Repairing relationships and gaining support for maintaining the energy, passion and desire for healthy relationships
    • Help with engaging in activities and relationships that replace the desire to use drugs or engage in harmful behaviors 
    • Creating a self-care practice that nourishes mind and body, maintaining support and positivity
    • Learn to identify cravings and triggers
    • Celebrating important gains and achievements and learning to make healthier choices
    • Support with structure, activities, exercise, nutrition, socializing and sleep hygiene
    • Help with learning to be present, tolerate discomfort and live in the present moment

    About ADDICTIONs + Compulsions TREATMENT  

    EMDR Protocols For Addictions + Compulsions

    Kim Seelbrede views addictive behaviors as symptoms of other underlying, unresolved issues and has developed a special interest in recovery support as well as having received specialized training in this area. Addictions such as substance abuse and process addictions are complex problems and can be successfully treated when other co-occurring difficulties are addressed, such as depression, panic disorder, ADD, Aspergers and personality disorders. Many may have more than two conditions that contribute to maladaptive coping responses. Some common addictions include: alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, video games, the internet, sex, pornography and work. Successful treatment for addictive behaviors is an integrative approach that may include some combination of psychotherapy and behavioral treatments. EMDR therapy using addiction protocols, psychodynamic psychotherapy and dialectical behavior therapy or DBT skills are also very effective forms of treatment. 

     

    About Anxiety Therapy

    Generalized Anxiety Disorder,  Panic Disorder, Agoraphobia, Social Anxiety Disorder, Separation Anxiety, Phobias, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, And Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) 

    Kim Seelbrede uses a very effective protocol and combination of techniques when working with clients who struggle with anxiety. Her high success rate for helping clients overcome anxiety using combined mindfulness, CBT and EMDR techniques means that clients experience healing at the level of the nervous system, as well as gaining important self-empowerment tools to handle future situations. With fewer anxiety symptoms, her clients report an improvement in both personal and professional aspects of their lives in addition to improved productivity, motivation, focus and a decrease in procrastination. Using the nervous system healing techniques of EMDR combined with the emotion and thought management techniques of CBT, clients are able to effectively control their anxiety symptoms. Because CBT is skill-based, clients feel empowered and are able to manage and control their anxiety symptoms. Because EMDR therapy heals at the level of the nervous system, clients find that they spend less time doing CBT homework, and are more often than not, able to maintain and return to a state of self-regulation.

    About DEPRESSION therapy

    Major Depression, Dysthymia, Postpartum, Premenstrual, Seasonal Affective, Atypical, Situational, Bipolar

    Depression and anxiety symptoms are a common reason teens, adolescents and adults seek treatment. Therapy and the support of talking with a therapist helps resolve depression and anxiety symptoms for many. Psychotherapists and psychologists are trained to provide their clients with helpful tools, coping skills and ways to challenge and change or accept the thoughts, feelings and behaviors that may contribute to depression. Understanding the source of the problem or situations that trigger depressive episodes may not always lead to symptom relief. Kim Seelbrede uses an integrative approach when working with depression symptoms that includes: psychodynamic psychotherapy, interpersonal therapy, cognitive therapy, EMDR therapy, lifestyle changes, mindfulness and acceptance. For some, a combination of psychotherapy and medication offers the safest, most comprehensive healing approach. Milder forms of depression can be effectively treated with supportive lifestyle changes.